This is the real "On The Street"
As many have discovered, it is very easy to maintain One-Point and good will towards men in the peace and serenity of the dojo, a ki class, a convent, a meditation garden. But most of us must return to the real world, perhaps by way of heavy traffic — a daunting challenge to the relaxed life. In the Washington, D.C. area alone there are over 900 cars per square mile and their drivers, with their own perceptions, attitudes, traditions, misconceptions, inexperience, and possibly alcohol or drugs — a volatile mix. In this area alone, more than 16,000 motorists a year are charged with driving under the influence of alcohol or drugs; in 1994 these factors led to over 6,600 crashes and 130 fatalities. Nationwide, more than 110 people are killed, and 5,700 injured on the roads every day.
Teens comprise only 7 percent of drivers, but cause 28 percent of highway injuries, nine times the rate of older drivers. Forty percent of teenage deaths occur on the highways. During the Viet Nam war, death rates for young men actually dropped as young men were removed from American roads to the relative safety of guns and grenades.
Some attribute our collective madness on the highway to our identification with our cars. The protective anonymity of tons of steel and tinted windows tempt us to behave in ways that we never would otherwise.
"I AM my expensive and prestigious luxury car— and you want me to move over to let you pass?"
According to AAA, 85 to 95 percent of crashes are caused by driver error, from honest mistakes, not by hostile people looking for a wrangle. Nevertheless, those who assume hostile intent and retaliate end up in a back-and-forth dance that can end in disaster. While many of us study martial arts for safety "on the street," we seem oblivious to danger "on the road." Better to wear a seat belt, drive kindly and sensibly, and practice inner calm.
In most of the Aikido world contests and tournaments, based on fighting and defeating an opponent, are forbidden.- This does not mean that there is no competition, for what is in Aikido is humans and most humans are endlessly competitive. Forbid competition and the competitive mind will simply come up with more subtle ways of competing. Competition can help to build skill, but Aikido techniques are based on the theory of non-dissension. Failure to grasp the theory means failure to master the techniques. Tohei urges those who want competition to compete — with themselves.
A person who likes contests and matches should try having one with himself. For instance, a quick-tempered man might say, "Today I'm not going to get angry once " If he manages to hold his temper all day, he wins; if he does not, he loses.
If we make progress without causing anyone else trouble and without bearing ill will against anyone, we will get to the point where we are always winning. That is real victory. If we fail to win over ourselves, even though we win over others, we are doing nothing but satisfying our own conceit and vanity.
There is hardly a better arena for such an internal contest than on the road Use rush-hour traffic to practice blending, flowing, extension of good will, and ma-ai ("correct distance") in the car just as in other physical vehicles. Practice not reacting, not wasting energy ascribing ultenor motives to the speeder who zooms up from behind flashing his lights and honking for you to get out of the way.
Observe others who play these roles and notice that behavior is not a function of vehicle design but of the driving spirit.
While it is easy to rage about other people's conduct on the road, try this contest for the competitive soul: can you make it home or over [X] miles without committing a single error of judgment or of courtesy? Here are the rules of the game:
Although increasingly rare in practice, not one of these is anything other than standard motor vehicle law or good sense, whether operating a vehicle of steel and plastic or one of flesh and bone.
The emotional hook of perceived hostile intent is often worse than the action itself. I once lost all patience with a driver who was weaving unsteadily down the road. My perception changed radically when the driver made a clumsy left-hand turn from the middle lane — into the hospital emergency room.
Thomas Merton recounts an old tale of "the empty boat." If an empty, drifting boat bumps up against a boatman on the river, even a bad- tempered man will not lose his temper, but simply deal with the situation. If a boat with a man in it does exactly the same thing in exactly the same way, the boatman will scream and curse. But what has changed 7
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